Say my old country in-laws, or maybe it was My Big Fat Greek Wedding (or, in Mark Stein's more demographically apt formulation "My Big Fat Uptight Protestant Wedding... but they don't spit and I digress). But Scientific American has the research to back it up.
Many people assume that superior intelligence or ability is the key to succes. But more than three decades of research shows that an overemphasis on intellect or talent — and the implication that such traits are innate and fixed — leaves people vulnerable to failure, fearful of challenges and unmotivated to learn.
In short, praise the effort.